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Setting Up a Calm Down Corner for Toddlers and Preschoolers

Setting Up a Calm Down Corner for Toddlers and Preschoolers

July 29, 2014 By Katie Chiavarone 7 Comments

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I have a spirited kid. From the moment he was small, I scoured the internet to find some of the best resources for gently parenting him, while making sure that I was doing the best I could as a mom. As he got older, I quickly realized that some of the more ‘traditional’ parenting methods just weren’t for us. The calm down corner was a LIFE SAVER.

 

When I learned about and implemented a ‘calm down area’ in our home, it was quickly one of the best parenting choices I had made, and really made a big impact on our family. Check out how we did it below.The best alternative to a time-out, a calm down area for preschoolers and toddlers. What's in ours, and how you can set one up too!

Do I Need a Calm Down Area?

I have always followed most attachment parenting techniques in my five short years of motherhood. I co-sleep with my babies (my 5 year old still ends up in bed with us most nights), and respond to every cry for much longer than most probably think I should.

I breastfeed after a year and I baby-wear until they no longer fit in the back carry of my Tula. I know attachment parenting goes beyond that, but just so you can understand a bit of my ‘crunchy mama’ style, there you go. I’ve learned to let go of what others think and to do what I think is best for my little family; trust me, the freedom that will give you is exhilarating.

My son, who is now 5, is a brilliant little boy who knows exactly what he wants, how to articulate it, and doesn’t like to take ‘no’ for an answer. Some would probably classify him as ‘spirited‘. If you haven’t read the book Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic by Mary Kurcinka, you should, regardless of your child’s temperament.

The best alternative to a time-out, a calm down area for preschoolers and toddlers. What's in ours, and how you can set one up too!

Why You Should Be Setting Up a Calm Down Area in Your Home

My son and I have a great understanding of each other and have learned how to navigate one another’s personalities and compromise on just about everything. My husband and I endearingly refer to him as the ‘Priceline negotiater‘.  We have managed to avoid any real tantrums or meltdowns, but he has a hard time not getting frustrated and losing his temper, resulting in a lot of yelling and angry faces and a tired momma who runs out of patience.

Time-in’s and a space to calm down has many benefits for an angry child. It allows the parent to connect and teach rather than isolate, and in the end, will strengthen the bond between parent and child rather than invoke fear of punishment.

{RELATED: My tips for helping your child calm down, and 8 ways kids can learn to calm themselves down ANYWHERE}

My goal with the calm down corner is for kids to learn some coping skills tools to help calm down, all the while teaching them that it’s ok to experience emotions such as frustration, anger and sadness.

Our Calm Down Corner

This calm down corner is a safe place for us to talk about how he is feeling, help him calm down and learn some skills to be able to do this when I’m not there. We created it together and he is excited about it, which I love. There is a bean bag chair, a pillow to scream in or even hit, some sensory items, music, and things that he can blow on to help with deep breathing. Here are a few of the things in our basket and links to the instructions for making them.

UPDATE: We have been using this for over a year now and it is hands down my favorite ‘discipline’ strategy for him 🙂

 

What’s in the calm down corner:

1. Discovery Bottles

 

I love these bottles for sensory play and they also function as great calming jars as well. (My 11 month old loves to shake and look at them as well, they are an excellent mess-free experience for babies!)

DIY Lava Lamp

Calm Down Jar

Discovery Bottles

 
Discovery bottles make a great calming tool for kids
 

2. Playdough Balloons

 

These function similarly to stress balls that adults use. They feel great to squeeze and are perfect for angry little hands. I drew sad and angry faces on ours so that M could choose one that he could relate to, helping him express how he is feeling.

 
See these Stress Ball Balloons for ideas on how to make them.
 
 
Play dough filled balloons are a great calming tool for kids.
 

In the calm down basket:

  – discovery bottles

  – No Hitting!: A Lift-the-Flap Book (Karen Katz Lift-the-Flap Books)

  – pinwheel

  – iPod

  – sensory balls/toys

  – party horns (for blowing, they don’t make noise)

  – play dough balloons

 

This area is in the living room so that even if he is upset, he is not isolated from the family. I can sit with him while he calms down and we can discuss what the issue is and how we can fix it. There are times where things just can’t be fixed, and for those times we can just sit a little longer, and have a few extra snuggles. I know this method may not work for everyone. Some might call it spoiling or letting the child take advantage. But I know my son has a voice and he has feelings. I don’t want to make him suppress that or have to deal with them on his own. I want to guide him and help him.

Get our FREE mini pamphlet with sensory play ideas, recipes and more below!

 

Related: Even though I use the words ‘Calm Down’ in this post quite a bit, here are some reasons you might not want to use the phrase with your kids, and some alternatives instead.

 Using a calm down corner in your home can help kids learn to manage big emotions in a gentle way.
 

Here are some links that I find to be helpful regarding attachment parenting, gentle parenting, and spirited children:

Attachment Parenting by Dr. Sears
The 4 Principles of Attachment Parenting
What is Gentle Parenting
Parenting Your Strong Willed Child

Why Punishment is Ineffective


Related: Check out our BEST resources for the angry child (and their parents too!)


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Using a calm down corner in your home can help kids learn to manage big emotions in a gentle way.

 

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  1. Jules Ruud says

    November 15, 2015 at 8:07 am

    Katie, I love this post so much. Caleb is only in timeout for a minute right now, but 30 seconds in he starts to weep and say “I’m sorry mommy!” and I comfort him. I, too, love the cuddles and my heart melts at the “I’m sorry”s but I really want him to be able to find his own peace. I know he’s young and I hope that doesn’t sound harsh, but I feel like this is perfect. I am making a discovery bottle today and then I’m going to work my way up to the whole basket. Can’t wait to tell you how it goes. Thank you!

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    • kchiavarone@gmail.com says

      November 15, 2015 at 11:11 am

      Oh this makes me so happy to hear! Let me know if you have any questions or want any other suggestions 🙂 the timeouts just don’t work for us- I hope this works for you 🙂

      Reply
  2. Nikki says

    April 3, 2017 at 10:45 pm

    Thank you so much for the great idea! I just made one up for my little lad. Its great to find a positive and loving way to deal with a very stressful time.

    Reply

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